There’s a quiet saboteur inside many entrepreneurs and leaders—a Part that neglects your healthy needs. This Part tells you that work comes first, that deadlines matter more than downtime, and that prioritising your health is indulgent or unnecessary.
At first, it whispers: “You can skip lunch today; the meeting is more important.”
Over time, it may become a loud, dominating force, convincing you that self-care doesn’t fit into your busy schedule.
The effects of this neglect aren’t immediately visible, which is why this Part often goes unnoticed until the consequences become unmanageable.
For some, it manifests as fatigue or burnout; for others, it’s chronic back pain, digestive issues, or even severe health crises.
Self-care as a Compass
Self-care isn’t simply a fleeting indulgence or a candlelit bubble bath (though those moments have their place). It’s a compass—a quiet yet steadfast guide steering you towards a life aligned with your values, your energy, and your peace of mind.
It’s not always wrapped in the softness of spa days and soothing playlists. Sometimes, self-care is a firm, steady whisper urging you to face the hard truths and make the brave choices.
It’s walking away from relationships that feel like a leaky bucket, endlessly draining your energy no matter how much you pour in.
It’s drawing boundaries that may feel like building fences where open fields once stood, but knowing those fences protect your well-being.
It’s forgiving yourself for the messy, imperfect moments—because who promised perfection, anyway?
Self-care is the art of doing what’s necessary, not just what’s easy. It’s saying no when your heart aches to people-please.
It’s raising your hand to ask for help when pride tells you to soldier on. It’s releasing the white-knuckled grip on perfection, understanding that life’s beauty lies in its imperfections.
Think of self-care as planting seeds in the garden of your future. Each hard decision, each moment of grace, each act of courage is a tiny seed that blooms into a life where peace and purpose flourish.
It’s not about building a life you need to escape from; it’s about creating a sanctuary you’re proud to call your own.
So, pour yourself a cup of tea, sit in the stillness, and ask yourself: What does my future self need from me today? The answer may not always be easy, but it will always lead you closer to the life you deserve.
By addressing this inner saboteur through the Core Calmfidence® System, you can rewire your mindset, restore balance, and transform this interfering Part into a resourceful ally.
This article will guide you through four transformative steps—Capital, Clarity, Congruence, and Choice—that will help you manage the Part that neglects your healthy needs.
With these steps, you’ll learn to master your inner world, nurture your wellbeing, and manifest your goals with unwavering confidence and calm.
Let’s explore how this process can help you communicate with this inner Part and realign your priorities.
Capital: Building Your Inner Assets
The foundation of the Core Calmfidence® System is recognising and strengthening your inner resources—your emotional Capital.
When the Part that neglects your healthy needs takes over, it convinces you that your value lies solely in your productivity. But true Self-Leadership comes from knowing that your wellbeing fuels your success, not the other way around.
Reflect on moments when prioritising your health positively impacted your performance. For example, remember a time when a good night’s sleep made you sharper and more creative. Identify three essential health practices (e.g., hydration, regular meals, daily movement) and treat them as non-negotiable, just like a meeting with an important client. Use a journal or an app to monitor how you feel after engaging in self-care activities.
This will help you associate health habits with tangible benefits, reinforcing their importance
For example Emma, a marketing director, realised she performed better in strategy meetings when she made time for her morning yoga practice. By tracking how energised she felt after prioritising her health, Emma reframed self-care as a productivity tool rather than a distraction.
Clarity: Understanding Why You Neglect Your Needs
The next step is understanding the motivations of this interfering Part.
Often, it’s driven by deeper fears or limiting beliefs—perhaps the fear of appearing weak, or the belief that success requires constant sacrifice.
By recognising these patterns, you can start a dialogue with this Part, helping it feel heard and understood.
Give this Part an identity, such as “The Pusher” or “The Martyr.” Naming it helps separate it from your core self, making it easier to address.
Ask Questions: For example: “Why do you feel self-care isn’t important? What are you trying to protect me from?”
Reframe Its Role: Once you understand its intentions, thank this Part for its efforts, but explain why neglecting your health isn’t sustainable.
Reassure it that taking care of yourself will make you more effective in the long run.
Congruence: Aligning Your Actions with Your Values
Congruence is about ensuring your daily actions reflect your core values.
The Part that neglects your healthy needs often creates a misalignment between what you know is right and what you actually do. Reconnecting with your values helps you make choices that are authentic and sustainable.
Write down what optimal health looks and feels like for you.
For instance, “Having the energy to play with my kids after work” or “Feeling strong and focused during the day.”
Block time in your calendar for activities like meal prep, exercise, or relaxation, and treat these appointments with the same respect as work meetings.
Choice: Empower Yourself to Act
The final step is reclaiming your power of Choice. The Part that neglects your healthy needs thrives on autopilot behaviour—working late, skipping meals, ignoring symptoms.
Every healthy choice, no matter how small, is a step toward congruence. Acknowledge your efforts to build momentum.
But every moment presents an opportunity to choose differently.
When you catch yourself neglecting your needs, pause and ask: “What would the best version of me choose right now?”
Start small. Instead of skipping lunch entirely, commit to eating something simple and nourishing. Instead of avoiding the gym, take a 10-minute walk. Imagine the future you—energised, healthy, thriving.
Use this vision as motivation to make healthier choices today.
The Part that neglects your healthy needs may have served you in the past, but it doesn’t have to define your future.
By reshaping your inner world, you unlock a life of balance, optimal performance, and empowered decision-making.
Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live. – Jim Rohn
Your health isn’t a luxury—it’s the foundation of your Calmfidence, your resilience, and your ability to lead with impact. By applying the Core Calmfidence® System—strengthening your inner assets, gaining clarity, aligning your actions, and making empowered choices—you can reclaim control and prioritise your wellbeing.
Start listening to the whispers of your body and mind before they turn into shouts. You deserve to feel your best, and the journey begins with one small, conscious choice today. This is where your Psychological Capital work wonders.
By learning to tune into your needs and recognising the mental and emotional patterns holding you back, you can cultivate resilience, clarity, and calm from the inside out.
With the right tools—whether mindful self-reflection and intentional health practices—you’ll not only optimise your body’s performance but also guide your mind and emotions towards lasting strength and self-confidence. After all, the best version of you begins with the choices you make within.
For those interested in exploring this journey of Self-Leadership, CALMFIDENCE IS THE KEY by Nell Puetter offers powerful insights and practical tools for navigating your inner world.
This transformative book delves into the principles of Calmfidence, guiding you step by step to cultivate self-belief and inner calm.
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