Do you know that in 97% of cases diets actually don't work in the long term? Diets are completely ineffective because they focus on entirely wrong things! When you follow a particular diet and self-restrict yourself, you deny a part of yourself, opening a door to inner conflicts.
Even people following their diet for years end up breaking it. Why? Because diets are restricted and tell you what you can't have! Years pass by, but people continue to make plans to lose weight, and they struggle without knowing that their focus is on the wrong thing.
You will know that dieting won’t work in the long run if you have ever tried dieting and forcing yourself to follow a particular regime. You may lose weight for a short while but only to put it all back again or maybe even more!
If dieting worked, nobody would be overweight...
Many people are unaware of the fact that there are so many forms of hunger. First of all, there is real hunger which is nutritional hunger - the one in which we feel that our stomach is empty and we need to nourish it with food.
Then there comes dehydration. It is also a form of hunger. When you are dehydrated, you tend to want to eat. You are looking for hydration through food.
And then, there is emotional hunger, which is linked to pushing away our unwanted feelings. For example, when you eat a bucket of ice cream but you still feel hungry. The reason is that food is worthless in terms of nurturing your body with minerals and vitamins but you eat it to suppress some unwanted emotions.
The reason why we people are addicted to junk food is our feelings. Our stomach region is abuzz with 100 million neurons. It responds to continuous challenges and makes you move forward. It is the center of all emotions and feelings related to fear, anxiety, worry, survival, and satisfaction.
That is why, when you are not in a sane mental state, your stomach may get upset and will let you know. Unfortunately, to cope with our unwanted feelings, we push them away by eating them.
OBSERVE YOUR EMOTIONS
If you are noticing such emotional eating, I recommend as the first step to observe and recognise what emotions trigger your food choices. You need to understand your specific pattern. Emotional hunger means you feel bad about something… unpleasant news, heartbreak, or stress from a hectic day. For example, if you feel sad, you eat ice cream. When you feel unloved, you eat a piece of cake. If you have had a terrible day and you are frustrated and stressed, you order a pizza or have a glass of wine.
Some emotional eaters see food as a reward after a stressful day that calms them down. These are eaters who get calmed down by eating. And it is true that after eating a plate of pasta for lunch, you'll find that you can enjoy a good afternoon nap.
Or you might be physically tired, but you have to complete this project and so you have coffee, cookies, or potato chips to keep you going as you may believe this is your source of energy. However, digestion takes energy away when you're tired. You eating these things doesn't give you energy because digestion sucks that energy.
The truth is: You can't win the war against yourself!
The truth is that overeating will never help you gain this well-being. It will only suppress your immune system for such a long time that your mind and system get into confusion and inner conflict if you fail to realise the reason for it.
MANY PARTS ARE INVOLVED
The chief emotional states that lead you to overeat are frustration, heartbreak, tiredness, sadness, anger, stress, loneliness, and being overwhelmed. Additionally eating has many hidden emotional drives and involves complex psychological aspects! So many parts of you are involved when it comes to eating habits and trying to let you know something.
There might be some parts of your personality that are well-nourished, and you feel confident about them. It may happen that you are hiding behind the fact that you are overweight yet, there is a part where you could be craving attention. A part of you could be hungry for success, and the other part of you still is missing the joy and purpose of life. And there might be another part of you that is starving for praise and recognition
And there might be another side of you where you feel empty and devoid of love. So, when we feel empty, the best solution for us is to stuff ourselves with pizza. There is a deep misunderstanding that food may compensate for this emptiness inside.
And so if we are hungry for attention but getting that all mixed up thinking that we are hungry for food. That’s because of our emotional powerhouse in the stomach area, I mentioned earlier. Feelings like anxiety, stress, tension, anger, sadness begin in the stomach and push the real feelings down. That is why many people lose the connection with what they feel while eating their stress and tension away.
So, when you lack emotional nourishment, you stuff yourself with any food you get hands-on till you feel overly bloated.
WHAT ARE YOU ESCAPING FROM?
Here is the truth. Most people are used to cope with unpleasant feelings by escaping to a world of distraction, reaction, inaction, or wrong action! But the way out of this vicious cycle is the right action!
The right action will be to make yourself feel until you no longer need to be fed because of these feelings. Because when you are sad, you push that feeling of sadness with a cake or pizza. You knowingly suppress that part of yourself that is desperately trying to let you know something! As a result, your feelings start to come back stronger than before when you try to suppress them. As a result, you end up binge eating… But you can't win the war against yourself! You have pushed your feelings away, and they're going to keep coming back until you deal with them!
Instead of dieting, forcing, and beating up yourself, you can start observing and recognising the emotions which trigger your food choices. Observe the pattern which emerges for you. Realising your trigger factors is the first step.
After all, if you feel that eating makes things better and takes away all your pain, why hasn't it worked yet? Why are you still doing it?
What is triggering your food choice and eating behaviour? Start taking notes on what, why, where, when, and you will discover your “Aha” moment!
That is the first step - become a neutral observer of your eating habits without judging yourself.
HEALTHY HABITS AT THE DEEPEST LEVEL.
Changing your eating habits with a challenging diet, discipline, and force doesn’t work because these methods are at the conscious level having merely a narrow focus of about 5% of our mental capacity.
Being human beings, we are hardwired to avoid defeat, but we are also hardwired to go towards pleasure and away from pain. This situation leads to inner conflict and associates a dieting regime with pain and discomfort.
Do you want that? Of course not. Once you’ve had enough of the frustration, you will eventually give up and give in to your cravings!
It can be a vicious cycle that is capable of eroding your self-esteem and confidence.
Our relationship with food is based on many hidden emotional drives and involves complex psychological aspects which operate at a deeper level. So, if we become able to tap into that other 95% of our internal resources and make the change at that deep unconscious level, there's no struggle.
It means when you rewire your eating habits at the unconscious level, there is no need to use willpower to try to compel yourself to be the way you want to be. Instead, it can just happen naturally and automatically.
Your unconscious system is working 24/7 for you in the background. It keeps track of twenty million bits of information per second, which includes your breath, blood circulation, nail growth, and everything else. This process happens automatically without your conscious awareness because it is naturally programmed that way.
So, you can let your unconscious mind manage a healthy lifestyle for you without consciously trying to force yourself. Without self-restrictions. Without diets. No more emotional eating. Just an easy congruent healthy lifestyle, intuitive healthy eating habits, and a happy body that you are proud of.
SAY GOODBYE TO DIETS!
Say goodbye to self-restrictions and rewire a healthy relationship with food with ease. The truth is that a healthy regime doesn’t start with your decision in your head but with an unconscious automatic level.
Transformative inner work will surely help you find or regain your inner balance, purpose, and fun. It will reduce stress at the deepest level and cultivate your mental and emotional stability. This stability is the foundation of meaningful growth and fulfilling life.
I believe that we were born with a healthy relationship with food!
Calmfidence Inside Out approach works on the principle that we are all born with a blueprint for natural motivation to thrive & wellbeing and I believe that we were born with a healthy relationship with food.
This phenomenon is evident in small children - they eat when they are hungry. They stop eating when they feel full. They have a healthy weight and are comfortable with their skin. And that’s how you were once too!
But somehow, along the way, a part of us developed this destructive emotional eating habit and negative belief about food when coping with some specific difficulty in life. But this old coping mechanism doesn't serve us anymore! So, let me help you rewire it once and for all!
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD LEADS TO MORE FRUSTRATION...
Unfortunately, the cost of destructive relationship with food is very high...
I have worked with people who were desperate about their weight. Their confidence and lives were compromised, and they feel ashamed of their bodies.
For example, an overweight woman said, "I don't have a partner because I hate my body," and a man said, "I don't ask for a promotion because I think people look at me thinking I'm weak because I can't control my weight." These negative thoughts are far from being true!
However, going through such inner conflicts can be one of the most overwhelming and frustrating phases of life, which leads to poor performance, worries, delay in achieving goals, dissatisfaction, etc...
This inner dialogue creates a negative spiral of being stuck and hinders your ability to live a happy life. It can also cause low self-esteem, self-doubts and can also be the underlying cause of addictions affecting your relationships and health…
It’s time to reclaim a healthy relationship with the food and re-activate the blueprint you were born with. It's time to feel healthy, more energised, and ready to enjoy life with renewed Calmfidence!
To gain complete freedom from a destructive relationship between food and your body, you need to rewire at a deeper level without having to control what is on your plate. When you rewire at the deepest level, only then, you see food in a new perspective, and you'll naturally make healthy food choices without even thinking about it!
You will then naturally choose healthy and rich-nutrition food at the automatic level without even thinking about it!
Imagine a life in which you’ll never have to diet and restrict yourself again because when you install healthy programs at the unconscious level, you naturally make healthy food choices forever!
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